Mantra - Don't Be the Fixer

... you can't heal every broken bird, you can't protect people from themselves, you can't solve the world's problems, and you can't make everybody happy all the time (if ever!) — so, as Toni Bernhard advises (Sublime States), when tempted to "fix" try instead to think something like:

• I love you, but I cannot keep you from experiencing suffering.
• Your happiness and unhappiness depend on your actions, not on my wishes for you.
• May you live in peace regardless of your circumstances.
• May you accept with grace both your successes and your disappointments.

... and since we can't even fix our self (and "Unselfing" is so hard!) maybe just say "Forgiven, Forgiven, Forgiven" to oneself more often — and more sincerely!

^z - 2017-01-19