thoughts from How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis:

• Chapter 2: "It would be such a kindness to future me ..."
• Chapter 5: "... care tasks are morally neutral, mess has no inherent meaning. ... Dishes cannot make meaning—only people can."

Chapter 5: "You deserve kindness and love regardless of how good you are at care tasks."

• Chapter 6: "... your home is an inanimate object .... it doesn't deserve to be cared for. You are a person. You deserve to be cared for. ..."

Chapter 6: "In the end, the approach that you are motivated to do and enjoy doing is the most 'efficient,' because you are actually doing it and not avoiding it."

Chapter 7: "find the compassionate observer" — not the inner bully, not the little self, but the "third voice" that "feels empathy for others because they are worthy of love, [and] wants to give it to them."

Chapter 10: "... keep the on-ramp open." — make it easier to start a task by giving yourself permission to do just a tiny bit of it, or just a tiny movement toward doing it – cf One Small Step

Chapter 12: optimize the tradeoff between impact and effort – work first on low-effort high-impact tasks – and if you have time and energy, do things that demand higher effort and/or provide lower impact

Chapter 15 "... When you are functioning again, you will gain the capacity to do real good for the world. In the meantime, your job is to survive."

Chapter 16: "... it's not waste if you are using something to function." — "... take steps that reduce harm, first to self, then to those individuals around us, then to our community. You cannot jump right to community harm reduction before first addressing individual harm reduction. ... Harm reduction is always ethical."

• Chapter 19: "... self-compassion is key. Shame is the enemy of functioning."

Chapter 19: "The point of having a body is to carry yourself from joyful experience to joyful experience."

Chapter 21: "Humans are born with the birthright of worthiness ..."

• Chapter 22: "Good enough is perfect."
• Chapter 24: "Rest is a right, not a reward."

Chapter 24: "... self-kindness is extremely motivating. ... [give] yourself full permission to rest without guilt ..."

Chapter 28: "... let yourself move as slowly as you need to. No timers. No agenda. You may not get it all done. But you get more done than you would've if you hadn't done anything. ..."

Chapter 29: "Contribution and productivity are not moral values—but nonexploitation and humility are."

Chapter 35: "... say to [your]self with tenderness, 'Wow, I was really doing the best I could with what I had.' And that's the funny thing about doing your best; it never feels like your best at the time. ..."

Chapter 41: "... you do not exist to serve your space, your space exists to serve you."