From "The Reward of Practice" in Charlotte Joko Beck's Everyday Zen:

Although we are not acquainted with the opposite of a self (no-self), let's try to think what the life of no-self might be. No-self doesn't mean disappearing off the planet or not existing. It is neither being self-centered nor other-centered, but just centered. A life of no-self is centered on no particular thing, but on all things — that is, it is nonattached so the characteristics of a self cannot appear. We are not anxious, we are not worried, we do not bristle easily, we are not easily upset, and, most of all, our lives do not have a basic tenor of confusion. And thus to be no-self is joy. Not only that; no-self, because it opposes nothing is beneficial to everything.

^z - 2014-12-25