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Seven Ways to Love Better

From the "Modern Love" New York Times series, a list by editor Daniel Jones of "Seven Ways to Love Better":

1. Love is more like a basketball than a vase. — when there is conflict, a "relationship is made for bouncing ..."
2. Your curiosity is more appealing than your accomplishments. — "... being curious about people you meet is far more seductive than talking about your accomplishments. ..."
3. Be present, especially with your loved ones. — "... Be in the moment. Stop thinking about the future or the past, about what may or may not happen, and put away your phone. If a child in your lap asks about the best part of your day, say, 'This is.' ..."
4. Write well, love well. — "... the qualities of good personal writing — honesty, generosity, open-mindedness, curiosity, humor and humility — are the same as the qualities of someone with whom you would want to have a relationship. Likewise, the qualities of bad personal writing — dishonesty, withholding, blame, pettiness, dismissiveness and egotism — are the same as the qualities of someone with whom you would not want to have a relationship. ..."
5. Always lead with empathy.
6. Appreciate the beauty of impermanence.
7. Relationships don’t have to last to be good. — "... 'It’s not about getting over and letting go. It’s about honoring what happened. You met a person who awoke something in you. A fire ignited. The work is to be grateful. Grateful every day that someone crossed your path and left a mark on you.' ..."

_{(cf This Is How It Always Is (2018-02-02), Closeness Generation Questions (2021-07-20), Partner Change and Changing (2022-04-28), Mantra - Sit with the Void (2023-10-27), Zhiji (2024-09-20), ...) - ^z - 2024-10-13}

- Sunday, October 13, 2024 at 13:33:48 (EDT)

Tangentiality

Tangential speech and other symptoms of mental decline, as sketched in a recent New York Times article about a public figure:

• ... angry and rambling ...
• ... darker, harsher ... more profane and increasingly fixated on the past ...
• ... confused, forgetful, incoherent or disconnected from reality ...
• ... rambles ... repeats ...
• ... roams from thought to thought — some of them hard to understand, some of them unfinished, some of them factually fantastical ...
• ... voices outlandish claims that seem to be made up out of whole cloth ... digresses into bizarre tangents ...
• ... [uses] more all-or-nothing terms like “always” and “never” ... more negative words than positive words ...
• ... confused about modern technology ... easily distracted ...

Scary stuff – worth watching for and (if possible!) avoiding or at least delaying ...

_{(cf Hypomania (2012-10-28), ...) - ^z - 2024-10-09}

- Wednesday, October 09, 2024 at 19:07:24 (EDT)

Mate, Over Here, You'll Want to See This

A lovely essay by Damien Cave — New York Times staffer who opened that newspaper's Australia bureau in 2017, and who now is moving on to open a bureau in Vietnam. Cave's message appears in the NYT "Australia Letter" #373 (4 October 2024). It's titled "A Rest, a Reset and a Thanks for the Banter". Among the best bits:

In my experience, Australians tend to be a generous and rambunctious bunch. It’s a big part of what led me to write a book about my family learning to be more Australian, and I leave with gratitude for all the times that someone threw their arm around me and dragged my gaze in a new direction.

With the exception of many politicians, who have yet to figure out what to do with The Times in this still too-secretive country, I feel like my time here has been filled with versions of: “Mate, over here, you’ll want to see this.”

I am thinking of the small-town community leader who passed me a little blue book with the mobile numbers of everyone who lived there; the old and young couples who stopped to check on me when I had a flat tire; the billionaire who pulled back the curtain on a few of his peers; the scholars who shared research from decades ago that are still relevant today.

I could list 100 more examples. But rather than go through all of those, or traipse through old newsletters or stories and offer up my favorites, let me just say what journalists probably do not say often enough to those who help shape our work: Thank you. Thank you for it all, the trust, the help, the open-mindedness, the feedback good and bad.

_{(Cave is the author of Parenting Like an Australian: One Family's Quest to Fight Fear and Dive into a Better, Braver Life — cf No Worries, Mate (2012-11-24), Mantra - She'll Be Right (2017-02-21), Mantra - Give More Praise (2019-07-28), ...) - ^z - 2024-10-04}

- Friday, October 04, 2024 at 08:22:09 (EDT)

Algorithms to Live By

Algorithms to Live By: The Computer Science of Human Decisions by Brian Christian and Tom Griffiths (2016) is a fast, insightful book about technical tools for thinking better. Chapter titles summarize key themes:

1. Optimal Stopping
2. Explore/Exploit
3. Sorting
4. Caching
5. Scheduling
6. Bayes's Rule
7. Overfitting
8. Relaxation
9. Randomness
10. Networking
11. Game Theory

_{(cf unfinished draft "Think Better" — and other notes-to-self ...) - ^z - 2024-10-03}

- Thursday, October 03, 2024 at 10:27:38 (EDT)

Frederic Jameson, R.I.P.

Another recent death of another quietly thoughtful person, with two essays in his memory this week:

• "For Fredric Jameson, Marxist Criticism Was a Labor of Love" by A. O. Scott in the New York Times
• "Fredric Jameson Was a Generous Intellectual Giant" by Jacob Brogan in the Washington Post

A O Scott notes:

The characteristic Jamesonian sentence is stubbornly resistant to quotation — a long, intricate play of subordinate clauses and rhetorical reversals, sweeping generalizations and granular examples, embedded in a paragraph of baroque complexity, romantic grandeur and classical coherence — but there is one, just two words long, that I’ve always thought would make a great inspirational forearm tattoo.

“Always historicize!” Those are the opening words of “The Political Unconscious,” Jameson’s 1981 book on “narrative as a socially symbolic act.” He identifies “this slogan” as “the one absolute and we may even say ‘transhistorical’ imperative of all dialectical thought.”

The first page of the preface, and we’re already deep in the weeds! ...

Jacob Brogan shares:

... “The history of thought is the history of its models,” he wrote in the opening sentence of The Prison-House of Language (1972).

Yet the pithy precision of such phrases often belied the real difficulty of his work, which asked his readers to follow him through the bramble thickets of the whole history of thought without catching yourself on the thorns of one model or another. ...

Brogan ends his encomium with:

... Jameson argues, “To be influenced by somebody is not to write like him or her; rather, someone’s work suddenly opens up new possibilities that you never thought of before.” He’s speaking there about Faulkner and Sartre, but he could have just as easily been bragging about himself. Jameson affected others by showing them that more was possible in theory and criticism. He told no one what to think. He merely showed us what thinking is, how vital and vibratory it can be.

_{(for a dense sample of Jameson's writing about detective novelist Raymond Chandler see "Real Qualities of the Microcosm: Raymond Chandler in Los Angeles, USA") - ^z - 2024-09-28}

- Saturday, September 28, 2024 at 07:38:47 (EDT)

Hold Ideas Loosely

"Malcolm Gladwell Holds His Ideas Loosely. He Thinks You Should, Too.", an interview with Gladwell by Emma Goldberg, brilliantly puts its key point in the title. Other excellent comments along the way:

• “… the goal of the book [is] to give people the sense that the world that you’re given is not the world you have to settle for …”
• “… Now that I am a parent, I don’t think I’ll ever opine on parenting again …”
• “… In these kinds of books, you can’t ever tell the whole story. You have to pick where you think the opportunities for advancing people’s understanding are the greatest …”
• “… you do need to communicate the uncertainty. It’s fine to have a beautiful idea that you’re presenting to people and helping them make sense of the way the world operates. But I do think that you have to communicate the understanding that this could be wrong. …”

_{(see New York Times gift-link to the interview, and here cf Science vs Stamp Collecting (2000-06-20), Retrospective History (2003-03-07), ...) - ^z - 2024-09-26}

- Thursday, September 26, 2024 at 10:54:25 (EDT)

Zhiji

"I Wanted to Crave Him, Not Have Him", a New York Times essay by Lei Wang, pirouettes around a wonderful Chinese word: zhiji, written zhī jǐ with tones, or 知己 in characters. It literally means "know yourself". Wang begins:

One of the most intimate relations in Chinese culture is known as the “zhiji” — the “know-self,” one who knows you like you know yourself. This is a connection outside of any social role, something beyond even best-friendship, like a platonic soul mate. The Chinese describe the feeling a know-self inspires as different from friendly, romantic or familial feelings: It is considered a fourth kind of feeling.

It is friendship with a certain spark, but not quite romance — the ideal spiritual relationship.

It's a "Modern Love" essay, and Wang goes on to tell her own know-self friend-forever story, plus confessional-commentary on other relationships. She shares delightful philosophical asides, e.g.: "What we call platonic now was actually the highest rung of Plato’s Ladder of Love, which ran from lowly love of the earthly to love of the celestial — love in its most spiritual form."

Bottom line in one word: invariable. Like the North Star (see Shakespeare's Sonnet 116) or the compass-point circle-center (see John Donne's Valediction: Forbidding Mourning). People who are always there, and always here, for each other. One.

_{(cf Mantra - We Are One (2017-04-18), Other Significant Others (2024-05-07), ...) - ^z - 2024-09-20}

- Friday, September 20, 2024 at 13:46:34 (EDT)

The Sentinel

"The Sentinel" by Casey Cep is a beautiful profile of Ron Walters, civil servant, head of the National Cemetery Administration. It's long, inspirational, kind, and thoughtful. A sample from near the end:

… “He would’ve made a great priest,” Rosemary Williams, a lifelong Catholic, told me. “There are people like Ron who work in the federal government, and you can tell they’ve answered a call. Ron always makes me want to be a better person.”

… “People who come into contact with him are inspired, and, to me, that’s the mark of a great leader.” I experienced it, too, leaving every interview with him wanting to be the Ron Walters of my writing, the Ron Walters of my exercise regimen, the Ron Walters of my marriage.

Who among us doesn’t want to be better at everything? Not just our work, however momentous or mundane it might be, but every aspect of our life: relationships, friendships, health, hobbies, community, stewardship of the earth, everything. Most of us, thankfully, aren’t terrible at what we do. We’re okay or pretty good. But Walters reminds us: Why not be better? Why not be the best? It isn’t impossible; it simply demands our constant devotion. Perpetual care, it turns out, is not just for cemeteries.

_{(see Washington Post gift-link for "The Sentinel"; see "The Canary", another Post profile of an amazing civil servant, via this gift-link — and here, cf Among the Missing (2001-10-20), Memorial Day (2002-05-28), Mantra - We're the Best (2017-11-26), 2020-08-26 - Haiti Cemetery (2020-09-09), Fifth Risk (2024-09-18), ...) - ^z - 2024-09-19}

- Thursday, September 19, 2024 at 08:00:45 (EDT)

Fifth Risk

Michael Lewis's 2018 book The Fifth Risk is well-written, thoughtful, and important. It's all about good government: how, thanks to dedicated civil servants, extraordinarily valuable services and products are delivered to the citizens of the United States. Unappreciated, patient people in the bureaucracy do amazing, creative things. Lewis tells their story beautifully, as he did for a single person (Chris Mark, Department of Labor) in his 2024 Washington Post profile-essay "The Canary". Powerful writing, meticulous research, excellent explanations, vital results.

And "The Fifth Risk" of the title? It's Project Management — and the risk is that ignorant, selfish individuals (and private organizations) will subvert the political process, break the mechanisms of competent government, waste or steal national resources, and ultimately kill people. It's scary, and it has happened in many societies, including the USA, throughout history ...

_{(see this gift-link for "The Canary"; cf MoneyBall (2004-06-07, Big Short (2011-04-24), ...) - ^z - 2024-09-18}

- Wednesday, September 18, 2024 at 15:53:41 (EDT)

toki sona - sina wile olin a

from How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis, Chapter 6: "... your home is an inanimate object .... it doesn't deserve to be cared for. You are a person. You deserve to be cared for. ..."

_{(semi-literally: "Your home is a dead thing. Your home does not need love. You are a person. You need love!") - ^z - 2024-09-10}

- Tuesday, September 10, 2024 at 16:23:34 (EDT)

toki sona - sina wile ala sona suli

_{(or more literally, "In the context of your working for a long time, you want to be smart, but you don't want to be hugely smart!")}

sina pali e tenpo suli la sina wile sona
taso sina wile ala sona suli

_{(Chris Mark, as quoted by Michael Lewis in "The Canary") - ^z - 2024-09-09}

- Monday, September 09, 2024 at 21:42:21 (EDT)

toki sona - mi sike mama taso

🥚

I am only an egg.

_{(from Robert A Heinlein's Stranger in a Strange Land; cf Hurry Patiently (2008-12-14), Waiting Is (2011-01-17), Brightly, Brightly, and with Beauty (2012-06-25), Pure Waiting (2023-06-23), ...) - ^z - 2024-09-06}

- Friday, September 06, 2024 at 08:08:42 (EDT)

toki sona - o wile e lili

_{(cf More Fun Less Stuff (2002-10-01), ...) - ^z - 2024-09-04}

- Wednesday, September 04, 2024 at 11:28:13 (EDT)

toki sona - lape li pona

"Rest is a Right, not a Reward!"

If you need Rest, then Rest
Others may not take that away
Rest is good

sina wile lape la o lape
jan ante li ken ala weka e ni
lape li pona

_{(cf Chapter 24 of How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis) - ^z - 2024-09-02}

- Tuesday, September 03, 2024 at 13:56:52 (EDT)

toki sona - pona lili li pona sewi

🌱

🌱

🌱

_{(cf How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis, Chapter 22: "Good enough is perfect.") - ^z - 2024-08-30}

- Friday, August 30, 2024 at 07:33:36 (EDT)

toki sona - jan li jo e kon

💕

💕

_{(cf How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis, Chapter 5: "... care tasks are morally neutral, mess has no inherent meaning. ... Dishes cannot make meaning—only people can.") - ^z - 2024-08-29}

- Thursday, August 29, 2024 at 09:56:05 (EDT)

toki sona - o pana e pona tawa sina pi tenpo kama

💖

💖

_{(cf Chapter 2 of How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis) - ^z - 2024-08-28}

- Wednesday, August 28, 2024 at 08:09:41 (EDT)

toki sona - o olin sina

Love thyself! — or perhaps, as said by KC Davis in How to Keep House While Drowning: "Self-compassion is key"!

_{^z - 2024-08-27}

- Tuesday, August 27, 2024 at 08:37:47 (EDT)

toki sona - lawa open kulupu

An enigmatic mantra from the Insight Dice — perhaps suggesting:

• "Mindfulness begins with community"
• "Leadership opens society"
• "Rules engage teams"

... that last possibility echoes an observation by Michael Kimmelman (NY Times music critic, in Creative Devices): "Bach, whose music has the most rules, also gives the most freedom, a paradoxical quality of creativity."

_{^z - 2024-08-26}

- Monday, August 26, 2024 at 16:18:01 (EDT)

Letting It Go

Feeling deep sympathy
    — without taking in pain
Serving one another
    — without anything in return
Helping the needy
    — without removing responsibility
Forgiving the guilty
    — without approving the sin

🙌

_{(cf Carrying Our Own Stuff (2017-01-17), ...) - ^z - 2024-08-23}

- Saturday, August 24, 2024 at 05:51:05 (EDT)

Mantra - Mind Your Heart

Mind your heart.
Spend time with friends.
Know that you are loved!

or in Toki Pona:

💖

o lukin tawa pilin sina
o awen lon jan pona sina
o sona e olin tawa sina

_{(with special thanks to Dr 🌙 !) - ^z - 2024-08-22}

- Thursday, August 22, 2024 at 08:32:55 (EDT)

When a Bell Stops

When a bell stops ringing
At the moment a door closes
Between night and day
In the space between thoughts
Breathe

_{(cf Between (2009-12-10), ...) - ^z - 2024-08-13}

- Wednesday, August 14, 2024 at 15:53:50 (EDT)

United, States

A nation named not for a person,
Not for a tribe, but for a concept — unity

Like a partnership, a marriage
A mathematical set, a team

Together
One

_{^z - 2024-08-12}

- Tuesday, August 13, 2024 at 08:04:46 (EDT)

Because

Because — just because

Everything has a cause
And that cause has a cause before it
Back to the very beginning —
Or if there's a loop without a beginning,
Then the cause applies to the whole loop

Why?

Because — just because

_{^z - 2024-08-11}

- Monday, August 12, 2024 at 10:17:59 (EDT)

Free Will vs Determinism

🙉

Illusion or delusion?
      Is there any choice?
Compulsion or decision?
      Oh shush, Inner Voice!

_{^z - 2024-08-09}

- Sunday, August 11, 2024 at 12:59:56 (EDT)

Totality

All that is:
      Future, past
Outside, within
      Tiny, vast
Glacial-slow
      Atomic-fast
Below, above
      First and last!

_{^z - 2024-08-08}

- Friday, August 09, 2024 at 08:55:37 (EDT)

Resonance

🪺

Invisible bands
Together we run
Hands take hands
Two become one

_{^z - 2024-08-07}

- Thursday, August 08, 2024 at 09:33:37 (EDT)

Pure Seeing, Perfect Hearing

Pure seeing
Perfect hearing
Sensing what is
Without labels
Without judgment
Without choice
Only present

_{(cf Attention, Attention, Attention (2015-03-03), Bare Attention (2016-06-20), Attention Means Attention (2019-09-18), ...) - ^z - 2024-08-05}

- Wednesday, August 07, 2024 at 10:08:35 (EDT)

Invisible Ropes

Invisible ropes
Bind us together
Hold us back
Pull us forward
Rescue us when we fall
Carry words between us
Lead us through darkness
Until the day we
Cut the ropes
And go solo

_{^z - 2024-08-04}

- Monday, August 05, 2024 at 07:51:09 (EDT)

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